What To Do If You Have a Crush on Your Friend

What To Do If You Have a Crush on Your Friend

Ron and Hermione
He’s the peanut butter to your jelly, your late night texting buddy, and your partner in crime.  You two are nearly inseparable, yet both of you constantly put a stop to rumors that you’re dating (You’ve got your “We’re just friends” speech memorized by heart).   He’s your BGF (Best Guy Friend) and every girl should have one.  But what’s a girl to do when she starts wishing that the BGF was her BF?
 
Confronting your crush could go one of two ways: You transition into an awesome new relationship or you slide into an awkward friendship and you could lose your bestie forever.  How do you discern whether or not to take the plunge?  MyEveryzine’s got the perfect process for evaluating the sitch.
 
Test the Waters
In ideal circumstances, your BGF will confess that he likes you first, saving you from having to muster up the courage and fear of rejection.  If he does like you, he’s in the exact same mental state as you: Terrified to make a move in case his feelings aren’t reciprocated.  You can subtly assure him that you like him back by packing a little more flirt into your friendship.  Hug him a millisecond longer than you usually do.  Casually grab his arm as you tell him a funny story.  If the two of you typically hang out in a group, suggest a one-on-one friend-date, like a cheesy horror movie marathon at your place (Scary movies are a super sneaky method of flirting, because a part of the brain called the hypothalamus  associates fear with attraction.)
 
Consider Chemistry
Use this time of pursuit to reflect on how well you guys mesh together.  Is it awkward hanging out with him and only him?  Does he seem at all uncomfortable with your advances?  When your hand brushes against his, do you feel sparks?  Movies often exaggerate about the fireworks you should feel when you’re with your soulmate, but chemistry does exist, and if the two of you don’t have it, you just have to nurse a broken heart for a bit and then get back to being buddies.  
 
If you guys decide to go from comrades to couple, you’re going to put quite a bit on the line.  Before you put everything out in the open, you need to figure out if you two would make it.  Look out for glaring red flags like him talking to you extensively about a different girl or turning down multiple attempts to keep you company without other friends around.  If he starts acting distant, there’s a good chance you’ve been friend-zoned.
However, if he’s jumping at the opportunity to watch dumb movies with you and pig out with you and your favorite foods, if you catch him looking at you out of the blue, if he texts you back at 2:00 AM when you can’t sleep, this could be the start of a relationship even Ron and Hermione would envy.
 
Honesty is Key
Once you’ve sat down for a long while and considered if he could really like you and if you could like him, and you’ve decided you two have a really good shot at making it work, it’s time to profess your ‘like’.  Find a time when there’s few other people around and neither of you are distracted.  Just breathe and let your heart pour out.  Tell him that if he doesn’t feel the same or if you two don’t work out, you still want to be his BFF.  
If you do it the ME way, you get a Win-Win situation, either a wonderful boyfriend or a wonderful best friend.  Try and be happy no matter which way it goes, because either way you’ve got an awesome guy in your life that’s got your back.
—Karina Stow
Photo courtesy: Warner Brothers

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