When it comes to Prom, sometimes people just don’t get it and you have to take things into your own hands. Maybe you even have to ask them right upfront, and trust ME, we’ve got some great ideas for you. If you are of the timid type (don’t worry, plenty of us are) and need some helpful tips about how to drop a hint you’ve come to the right place. Read these simple tips and you’ll have him or her thinking about you in no time.
Write This Down
Leave notes everywhere in their path. Have one saying “Someone wants to go to prom with you” another perhaps saying, “He/she is closer than you think.” Then leave little presents that will remind your potential date of who you are. Make sure they are specific so that they don’t think it is someone else! Either way, you’ll put prom night, and you, on the mind.
Is This a Setup?
It may seem corny, but try to set your friends up with his/her friends. Or if you know your friend is interested, bring it up to them and add, “How fun it would be if we all went together?” You’ll bring up the idea of how easy it would be to all go as a big group. Lots of guys want prom to be simple, and what’s easier than taking someone plus having friends there as a back up?
Something Seems Fishy
If you are planning to eventually ask him/her if they don’t get the hint, this is a great starting point. Leave goldfish crackers everywhere; their locker, outside their car, even at their lunch table. They will eventually catch on that something is happening and be curious. Follow it up by asking them out with the classic “Let the Fish do the Talking” scheme.
The Casual Mention
In your regular conversation with your, hopefully, date to be, mention the ways that your friends are being asked to prom and how you are still waiting for your date to ask. If they pick up on it, they’ll realize they need to get to it and ask you already! If not, follow up by asking who they are going to prom with or make a joke about how much fun you’d have together.
Admire From Afar
If the person you want to ask you is more of a secret desire then you need to start building a friendship now, but don’t start it off with prom. Put yourself out there! They will be excited about a new acquaintance that cares about things other than the big dance, and you will be fresh on their mind when they think about who they want to take.
The Girlfriend Card
Your friends are there for a reason. If (and ONLY if) they are mutual friends with the person you have an eye on, have them put in a good word. Your potential date may not even know, or have picked up on the fact that you are interested. Sometimes all it takes is a little name drop from your friends to get the ball rolling. You could even ask them to post a link to ME’s stellar prom ask outs on their Facebook wall! This can only be used once, however, seeing as you don’t want to freak him/her out or overwhelm them.
It’s the Little Things
Talk, but not constantly, about your prom details. Make it blatantly obvious that you are dateless, and ask if they are excited. Talk about how much fun it’s going to be, but then change the subject after awhile. Make sure you’re pre-date conversations are comfortable so that the other person can think about asking you without nerves getting in the way.
Go out on a pre-date before prom! Ask if they want to see a movie or go to the school baseball game that weekend. Don’t come right out and say it’s a date, that way if you both have fun it will definitely get them thinking about how awesome it would be to go to the dance together. They may even think it was their idea in the first place! And, on the plus side, if things are awkward you’ll realize that it wasn’t worth it and will still have time to look for a new prom prospect.
Don’t Seem Desperate
You don’t want that special someone to think you are drooling over them. When you ask who they are taking, they will most likely ask you the same question in return. Say you have a few options, but there’s someone that hasn’t asked that you’ve got an eye on. This puts you more in control, but also signals to him/her that you’re a bit mysterious. This way you’ll be on their mind until they break down and ask you.
Friends are Key
If you have mutual friends, talk to them and try to get some insider info. They won’t be alarmed, and will most likely have the answer. However, be aware that the fact you asked will probably get back to him/her. This is a plus because it means that they will know you are interested. And if they already have a date they will still think it’s sweet you thought of them.
Come Out and Say it!
If all else fails, tell him/her you want to be their date! Say how excited you are for prom and mention you’d love to go with them. Although this may be scary at first, remember to be confident. People respond well to those who aren’t afraid to say what they think. Either way, you’ll feel great about the fact that you said what you needed to say and didn’t beat around the bush.