In the movie He’s Just Not That Into You, personal relationships are put through the wringer as a web of make-ups and break-ups are woven on the big screen. Here are some great flicks that not only keep us entertained, but also teach us a little about the causes and effects of the terror known as the break-up.
Be Honest About Yourself and Your Feelings
In How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, we see just how much lying can affect a relationship and be the cause of a break-up. The break-up in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days proved that if you go into a relationship being anything other than honest, you are doomed!
One of the many lessons that Mean Girls has taught us is that it is impossible for anyone to keep up a charade forever. So if you’re both upfront and truthful about who you are and your intentions from the beginning, your chances of success are greatly increased.
Priorities Have to be Right
As demonstrated by Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada, work should not be a person’s only priority in life, but it is significant. Sometimes a break-up shows us that we are simply not ready to have a committed relationship yet. This is not a bad thing. In fact, sometimes being single and focusing on your schooling or professional life can be quite beneficial. Remember, there are more important things in life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend!
Independence Should Be Embraced
While in the moment of a break-up, it can seem life your entire world in crashing down around you. That’s what Reese Witherspoon felt during her unexpected break-up in Legally Blonde. However, at the same, although difficult to see through a sea of tears, doors can be opening all around you. You can find inspiration, motivation, and drive to shake up your own life a little bit and focus on your own happiness and self-worth. Every end is a fresh start in disguise!
Break-ups can free you in a way that you never thought possible. Adam Sandler’s key to happiness in The Wedding Singer was given to him when his fiancée left him at the wedding altar! He didn’t realize how miserable he was until he was given the distance to be single and independent.
Don’t Forget Your Manners
Possibly the most important thing to remember while in the midst of a messy break-up is that tearing down your ex is anything but helpful, as Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn proved to us in their appropriately titled film, The Break-Up. It can be very satisfying in the moment to see him or her hurting, but in the end, being nasty towards them can only hurt you more. You have to live with your choices, and revenge is never a good color on anybody!
In Forgetting Sarah Marshall we see that playing these games can always come back to bite you, so it’s better to be mature and walk away from a failed relationship with dignity and grace. Be respectful towards your ex because you never know how much more trouble it can save you somewhere down the line.
So, hopefully this has made the dreaded break-up a little more bearable for you lovely readers! Remember, there are plenty of positive ways to deal with a split, so put on a good attitude and get focused on all of the other amazing aspects of your life!